For Harry, Christmas magnified feelings of isolation. How could he escape the annual rollercoaster of anxiety and sadness? | Bianca Denny

Through therapy, Harry sought to avoid comparisons with others, and prioritise social connection, inclusion and kindness

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Harry* dreaded the weeks leading up to Christmas. He felt overwhelmed by the cacophony of carols, decorations and well-wishes from strangers. But moreover, he anxiously awaited the inevitable question: what are your plans for Christmas?

In the midst of a loneliness epidemic, it’s no surprise Christmas is a challenging time for many. The heavy focus on family events and relationships can compound feelings of loneliness and isolation, especially for people experiencing complex family dynamics or estrangement, bereavement, “empty-nesting” or separation and divorce.