This is how we do it: ‘When I tell other gay men we’re monogamous, it’s like I’ve said we have a strange kink’

Jake tends to be submissive, while Leo is more dominant. Now they’re living in different countries, is long-distance love working out for them?

• How do you do it? Share the story of your sex life, anonymously

We waited until the fourth date to have sex. Leo then told me he was in an open relationship, but they were on the rocks